Buying adult toys for the first time: a no-awkwardness guide

Adult toys are a normal part of a healthy sex life for millions of people, solo or with a partner. Buying your first one can feel awkward, but a few simple rules make it easy.

1. Choose body-safe materials

This matters more than anything else.

Material	Notes
Medical-grade silicone	The best all-rounder: non-porous, easy to clean, lasts for years.
Glass and stainless steel	Non-porous and very hygienic. Can be warmed or cooled.
ABS plastic	Hard, body-safe and common in vibrators.
“Jelly”, PVC, TPE/TPR	Porous and harder to keep clean. Best avoided, especially if they smell strongly of chemicals.

2. Start simple

For a first purchase, a small, simple, rechargeable toy is usually the best choice. Big feature lists matter less than good materials and a comfortable size.

3. Use the right lubricant

Water-based lube works with everything. Don’t use silicone lube with silicone toys, as it can damage the surface.

4. Buy from a reputable shop

Established shops list materials clearly, ship in plain packaging, and bill under a neutral name. Check the returns policy too: for hygiene reasons, opened toys usually can’t be returned.

5. Clean and store properly

Wash toys before and after each use with warm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner (follow the maker’s instructions for anything with a motor). Let them dry fully, and store them separately in a pouch so materials don’t react with each other.

Bringing a partner in

Shopping together can be fun. Talk about what each of you is curious about, and start with something you’re both comfortable with. Our consent and communication guide has tips for the conversation.